Today I’m going to talk about your gas pedal.

If you’ve been following my recent series – based on my book Good Enough Now – you’ve taken the time to do some self-evaluation.

Taking our newfound self-awareness and responsibility into multiple opportunities for engagement with others, we can actually determine how we are likely to show up and adjust accordingly.

You’re becoming more effective at making connections…having powerful conversations…

The four pillars of powerful conversations

When we embrace our roles in our different relationships and realms of influence, we can seek others who can balance our personal areas that need support while also supporting others who need our strengths. 

The pillars of powerful conversations…

• Curiosity
• Generosity
• Vulnerability
• Authenticity

…will make us better listeners and develop real, lasting connections with others.

These real and lasting connections will encourage us and others to show up more completely. 

Only then will we be able to retain talent and increase creative innovation.

Are you fostering an environment of collaboration?

Making connections requires fostering an environment of collaboration. It breeds loyalty, resourcefulness, and better uses for scarce resources. 

Intentionally reaching out, listening, planning, and utilizing our Head, Heart, and Action modes allow our initiatives to fulfill the needs of others’ habits, leading to a better connection and more explicit purpose.

Just when you think you have arrived at clarity, you should start over!

It takes courage to do your own work and assist others to do the same, but you need more courage to repeat this process. 

Feeling done, accomplished, or better than someone else is exactly what doesn’t work. So we must do the best we can with what we have some of the time. 

Sitting in this vulnerable space takes strength. It takes confidence and strength to create a portal to solicit feedback from customers, clients, and those in your realm of influence. This act must become a habit in order for others to respond fully, wholly, and honestly.

Grow…then grow again…

Once you have the privilege of trust and loyalty between you and another, and they confront you and your behaviors, assumptions, or the like, you then get to grow knowing that you are trying and are willing to try again. 

Consistently repeating the process of self-reflection, noticing others as differently right, and leaving room for edits allows reflection, adjustment, and progress to become regular habits. 

We are all responsible for who and how we show up all of the time. We are good enough to open the door to real connections and powerful change. 

We are also good enough, as is, not to have to change everything at once. Let’s focus on our strengths, all of our differently right strengths, and support one another in our weaknesses as we evolve and change. 

So…now what? Hit the gas pedal!

You’re seeking the best ways of making connections that will lead to meaningful conversations.

So, notice your own patterns. Then, lean into your strengths and show gratitude for the lived experiences of others that led to the development of these patterns. 

When you notice something that you need to change, let it go. Then, the root of your patterns can be uncovered, and you can choose to forgive the source. This source may be someone or something from your past or present. 

The source can also be your third-rail mode keeping you safe and prepared. This could be your crucible moment. Listen to yourself and others. 

Forgive those you need to forgive. However, do not expect to be granted forgiveness from those you have wronged. 

Claim responsibility for these lived experiences and learn from them going forward. 

It is your third-rail mode that both limits and pushes you to grow. Keeping or changing your habits is up to you. From here, we can truly become the change we want to see in the world.

If you’d like more information about this process, you can check out my book – Good Enough Now – or contact me, and we can start a conversation.

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